Monologue-ing Chris

Love the way you lie 誤打誤撞聽了幾次，斯德哥爾摩綜合症（Stockholm Syndrome）是聽完馬上浮出的第一個念頭。而似乎是很多人的症頭？不然怎麼傳唱起來了？多麼痛卻還是多麼愛的一隻隻浴火鳳凰，耳根子因為聽謊言聽到結了硬垢就聽不進其他話語。好不熟悉。

人們無法為匪夷所思的事件做出合理的解釋，只好將它病理化。從而，在心理學、醫學領域出現了一種新型的心理疾病：斯德哥爾摩綜合症。這個病症又被稱為人質情結，概括而言，是指犯罪的被害者對犯罪者產生情感，甚至反過來幫助犯罪者的一種情結。 傑弗遜大學綜合醫學中心精神和行為醫學主治醫生楊景端博士在哈佛大學演講中，分析出人產生斯德哥爾摩綜合症的四個條件： （1）要人質切實相信生命正受到威脅 （2）施暴的人會給人質施以小恩小惠 （3）控制人質信息來源和思想 （4）讓人質感到無路可逃 這四個條件下，人們就會產生斯德哥爾摩綜合症。 斯德哥爾摩綜合症患者最初驚恐，接著會局部的、微弱的反抗，如果反抗無效，他們傾向於默認與接受自己被挾持、被統治的現狀，最終甚至是習慣被挾持，依賴被統治，崇拜這綁匪。這首先是心理上、精神上的依賴，是向綁匪靠攏的願意被馴養狀態。 斯德哥爾摩綜合症患者，具有兩種十分明確的行為趨向：或者尋求重新被人淪為人質；或者尋求將別人淪為自己的人質。 只要是動物，就有被馴養的可能。人自然逃不出這個藩籬，這一條是根本的。 斯德哥爾摩綜合症即面對外部強大的壓力，尤其是死亡威脅，所有生物都會表現出一定程度的服從。這造成的結果是，每一種動物，包括人在內，都有被馴養的可能。基本需求是一個底線，有吃有喝，生命得以延續，面臨暴力的強權，只有低頭才能獲得延續生命的可能，這或許是源於本能反應。就像人類在馴化狗的時候，常常以食物為引誘，輔之以鞭子，讓他做什麼，他才會做什麼。同時，隨著這個馴化過程，狗對主人也形成依賴的習慣與情感。表現在人類社會中，專統治者對臣民的馴化，是通過各種暴力的體罰、規範化的思想教育以及適時的小恩小惠而實現的，結果是培養出順民、良民。 人類作為一種動物，其原始本能保留著一種處理問題的極端方法，這也是一個底線，即通過肢體衝突來解決問題，例如爭奪食物、爭奪配偶等利益。在無禮可講的情況下，動手成為唯一可行的辦法。誰施暴的力量大，誰就成為新的統治者與支配者。勝者為王，敗者為寇。以成敗論英雄。手中掌握對人質生殺予奪大權的綁匪就是以勝者的姿態，獲得人質潛意識的心靈崇拜與傾慕。 如果一名恐怖分子用槍頂著你的太陽穴，然後輕柔地對你說：人的最高權利是生存的權利，你會不會感到分外恐懼？會不會本能地順從他？ (All of the above was stolen from 張軻風)

　　
　　


[Chorus - Rihanna] 
Just gonna stand there and watch me burn 
Well that's alright because I like the way it hurts 
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry 
Well that's alright because I love the way you lie 
I love the way you lie 

[Verse 1 - Eminem] 
I can't tell you what it really is 
I can only tell you what it feels like 
And right now there's a steel knife in my windpipe 
I can't breathe but I still fight all I can fight 
As long as the wrong feels right it's like I'm in flight 

High off of love, drunk from my hate 
It's like I'm huffin' paint and I love her 
The more I suffer, I suffocate 
Right before I'm about to drown, she resuscitates 
Me, she fuckin' hates me and I love it, Wait! 
Where you going? I'm leaving you. 
No you ain't. Come back. We're running right back 

Here we go again, it's so insane 
'Cause when it's going good, it's going great 
I'm Superman with the wind in his back 
She's Lois Lane, but when it's bad, it's awful 
I feel so ashamed, I snapped, "Who's that dude?" 
I don't even know his name 
I laid hands on her, I'll never stoop so low again 
I guess I don't know my own strength 

[Chorus - Rihanna] 
Just gonna stand there and watch me burn 
Well that's alright because I like the way it hurts 
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry 
Well that's alright because I love the way you lie 
I love the way you lie 
I love the way you lie 

[Verse 2 - Eminem] 
You ever love somebody so much, 
you could barely breathe when you with 'em? 
You meet, and neither one of you even know what hit 'em 
Got that warm fuzzy feeling, yeah, them chills, used to get 'em 
Now you gettin' fuckin' sick of lookin' at 'em 
You swore you'd never hit 'em, never do nothing to hurt 'em 
Now you're in each other's face spewing venom in your words when you spit 'em 
You push, pull each other's hair, scratch, claw, bit 'em 
Throw 'em down, pin 'em, so lost in the moments when you're with 'em

It's the fate that took over, it controls you both 
So they say, you're best to go your separate ways 
Guess that they don't know you 'cause today, 
That was yesterday, yesterday is over, it's a different day 
Sound like broken records playing over 
But you promised her, next time you'd show restraint 
You don't get another chance 
Life is no Nintendo game, but you lied again 
Now you get to watch her leave out the window 
Guess that's why they call it "window pane" 

[Chorus - Rihanna] 
Just gonna stand there and watch me burn 
Well that's alright because I like the way it hurts 
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry 
Well that's alright because I love the way you lie 
I love the way you lie 
I love the way you lie 

[Verse 3 - Eminem] 
Now I know we said things, did things that we didn't mean 
And we fall back into the same patterns, same routine 
But your temper's just as bad as mine is 
You're the same as me 
When it comes to love you're just as blinded 

Baby, please come back, it wasn't you, Baby, it was me. 
Maybe our relationship isn't as crazy as it seems 
Maybe that's what happens when a tornado meets a volcano 
All I know is I love you too much to walk away though 
Come inside, pick up your bags off the sidewalk 
Don't you hear sincerity in my voice when I talk? 
Told you this is my fault, look me in the eyeball 
Next time I'm pissed, I'll aim my fist at the drywall 
Next time? There won't be no next time 
I apologize, even though I know it's lies 
I'm tired of the games, I just want her back. I know I'm a liar 
If she ever tries to fuckin' leave again, 
I'ma tie her to the bed and set this house on fire 
I'm just gonna 

[Chorus - Rihanna] 
Just gonna stand there and watch me burn 
Well that's alright because I like the way it hurts 
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry 
Well that's alright because I love the way you lie 
I love the way you lie 
I love the way you lie


And Wiki has the story: 1973 年 8 月 23 日，兩名有前科的罪犯 Jan Erik Olsson 與 Clark Olofsson，在意圖搶劫瑞典斯德哥爾摩內最大的一家銀行失敗後，挾持了四位銀行職員，在警方與歹徒僵持了 130 個小時之後，因歹徒放棄而結束。然而這起事件發生後幾個月，這四名遭受挾持的銀行職員，仍然對綁架他們的人顯露出憐憫的情感。本案因歹徒放棄而結束，然而所有的被害者在事後都表明並不痛恨歹徒，並表達他們對歹徒非但沒有傷害他們卻對他們多所照顧的感激，並對警察採取敵對的態度，事後，更有進者，被綁架的人質中有一名女職員克麗斯汀竟然愛上歐陸森並與他訂婚 (Hubbard, 1986; McMains & Mullins, 1996)。這兩名搶匪劫持人質達六天之久，在這期間他們威脅受俘者的性命，但有時也表現出仁慈的一面。在出人意表的心理錯綜轉變下，這四名人質抗拒政府最終營救他們的努力。研究者發現到這種症候群的例子見諸於各種不同的經驗中，從集中營的囚犯、戰俘、受虐婦女與亂倫的受害者，都可能發生斯德哥爾摩症候群經驗。